Let’s start with the basics: think about what will work best for your child and family. What kinds of schools are available to you and what services do they provide? What will your child need to be successful? List the things you want and need by asking yourself: What is essential, and what would be convenient to have?
Here are some ideas to help you get started:
What kind of preschool would you like your child to attend?
Do you want a neighborhood school? Are you willing to drive farther to a school that better meets your family’s needs?
Do you want your child to attend an inclusive class with neurotypical peers, or would you prefer a special education classroom that offers more specialized support, such as an autism program?
Do you need a school with more or fewer hours? For example, does your child need a shorter day (between two and four hours) or an extended day (between five and eight hours)?
Do you want your child to have access to school-based occupational, physical, and speech therapists? (Read more about the differences between school and clinic-based services as well as the many related services that school districts can offer.)
What specialized support does your child need to stay safe? Make a list of every support you think they may need — and check out our list of accommodations for preschool here! It’s better to know the school can accommodate something your child doesn’t end up needing than to find out it’s not available later if your child does need it.
It's a good idea to consult your child's doctors, therapists, and specialists for recommendations, especially if you're unsure. Ask any early intervention providers for exit documents that may contain recommendations.
Families in California with children aged four may also consider TK programs within public schools rather than a preschool program. Read more in our article Universal Pre-K Has Arrived in California.
When considering placement, ask your district program to share information about all options with you. If they decide to only show you one kind of placement, remember that placement cannot be decided before the IEP meeting or without your input. You are an equal member of the IEP team, and you can’t discuss placement without knowing about all the options.
As you’re considering different placement options, remember that the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) requires that your child be educated in the least restrictive environment (LRE). This means that every student should have access to the general education curriculum while their academic, social, emotional, and behavioral progress and growth are supported. For example, suppose your child can be in a general education classroom with the support of a classroom aide. This is what should be provided. Your child should only be removed from a general education classroom if supplementary aids and services cannot meet their unique needs in that environment. (You can read more about IDEA here and LRE here.)
Keep in mind that seeing placements you think you might not want for your child can also be beneficial. Getting a "real picture" of a program that might be presented well on paper can be useful when it comes to advocating for the placement your child needs. You can also narrow down your choices by excluding any programs that do not provide models or services your child might need, such as:
You can learn more about placement options here. To read about what makes a preschool program inclusive, check out our three-part series with Dr. Mary Falvey:
Yes, but it depends on the district. Non-Attorney Special Education Advocate Lisa Carey tells us, "Typically when a parent accepts the services and not placement, they take their child to the district school at a prearranged time for services at the frequency agreed upon in the IEP."
Dr. Sarah Pelangka, BCBA-D, special education advocate and owner of Know IEPs, adds, "Generally speaking, if you are in disagreement with their offer of say, a specialized academic instruction (SAI) class [also known as a mild/moderate special day class (SDC)] but you want the speech and language services, you can opt to bring your child to them only for those services. It is possible to get services in a private setting (general education setting when the district doesn’t offer general education preschool) but it’s hard and the family will likely need to enlist support of an attorney, advocate, etc. But in short, you can accept services without agreeing to an SAI class as school is not mandated at that age. I always encourage my families to tour the programs before making any decisions and ask if the district does offer a general education preschool option."
Once you have your list of questions, wants, and needs ready, contact the schools you’re considering or the district to set up tours. Ask to tour all class options that may apply to your child (for example, a general education class or a special day class, or SDC) so you’ll have a firm understanding of what is offered in each class. You may also consider touring a private school that may be a more appropriate match for comparison; however, remember that the district is not legally required to implement your child’s IEP in a private school setting. Many parents feel uncomfortable asking hard questions during tours, but remember that you are your child’s most important advocate, and you should never feel bad about making sure they will be supported and safe at a school that fits their needs. Many quality programs encourage parents to help school staff with safety checks throughout the year; your feedback can help improve a school’s environment and procedures.
It's a good idea to write down any questions you may have before the tour to make the most of your time with school administrators and teachers. It's also helpful to get a phone number or email address if questions arise later. Take a notebook with you to write down anything that might come up during your tour. If you're an Undivided member, be sure to download our comprehensive tour checklist to take with you!
If your child is transitioning to the school district from IDEA Part C, planning will involve the early intervention agency in your state. For example, in California, your Early Start service coordinator (at your Regional Center or SELPA) should set up a transition conference with the school district to discuss Part B services and programs. The transition plan can be written into your Individual Family Service Plan. You may also want to reference Valley Mountain Regional Center's workbook about transitioning from Early Start to preschool.
About three months before your child’s third birthday, the service coordinator will send a referral to your school district of residence, which may contain the following:
You should receive a request from the school or district inviting you to the IEP meeting. (If you don’t, read about how to request an IEP meeting here.) Within 15 days, the district must create an assessment plan for your consent.
If your child has not had IDEA Part C early intervention services, you can request an IEP from the district 90 days before their third birthday.
You should try to start the transition process as early as possible because it may take more time than you anticipate. The first meeting should happen 90 days before your child’s third birthday, and make sure to work proactively with your school district to schedule the IEP at least a month before your child’s birthday so there’s no lapse in Part C services, which end on your child’s third birthday.
Check out the Undivided app for a step-by-step guide that makes preparing for your child's first IEP easy with expert tips, templates, and organizational tools!
Attending your child’s first Individualized Education Program (IEP) meeting can be overwhelming. You’ll come across many new words and acronyms, and the IEP itself has many parts. We’ve outlined the essentials below to help you get organized and prepare for your IEP meeting!
An IEP is an outline of services and supports that the school or district will provide at no cost to the student’s family to ensure their needs are met. All students who receive special education services must have an IEP — and all IEPs must ensure that the student has access to a free, appropriate public education (FAPE), as outlined in IDEA. You can read a quick explanation and background of the IDEA and FAPE here.
• Who is eligible for an IEP?
A child is eligible for an IEP if they meet the criteria for one of 13 eligibility categories and cannot make adequate progress in school without special education services.
• Who develops an IEP?
After a formal assessment by the school or district, the IEP team (which includes the parents) is created — read about the members of the IEP team and who is legally obligated to attend here. Your team will meet and review the assessments to determine whether a child is eligible for special education services. If so, they will design a program to address the child’s educational needs that arise because of their disability; this program is outlined in the IEP.
• How will my child be assessed?
A thorough assessment is the key to creating a strong IEP that accurately reflects a child’s goals, strengths, and areas of need. To qualify for an IEP, a student must receive an initial full assessment by a school psychologist, special education teacher, or other service provider. A full assessment is multidisciplinary, meaning it will include multiple areas of interest, such as social skills, communication, and academic performance.
• When is an IEP developed?
An IEP meeting must be held within 30 days after a student has been deemed eligible for special education and related services. (In most cases, they do it at the same meeting.) Another important timeline is the district has 60 days to evaluate a child after the parent's consent to assessment is signed. Learn more about IEP timelines here.
• Types of IEPs
Your child’s initial IEP will include the following components:
Once your child’s initial IEP is complete, you’ll have annual and triennial IEP meetings, as well as other options for reassessment and amendments. Read more about types of IEPs here.
During the IEP process, you may come across many acronyms and unfamiliar words. Check out our comprehensive guide to these here.
One essential service an IEP can provide is parent training and counseling. You can request this at your IEP meeting to help you learn skills to support your child at home. Read more about parent training here.
Accommodations for IEPs and 504 plans help remove barriers that make it difficult for your child to learn the same material as their peers and allow them to participate fully in school. Some common accommodations are:
Check out an extensive list of example preschool IEP accommodations here.
A 1:1 aide is a staff member who works individually with your child to help them access FAPE. You can request a 1:1 aide at your child’s IEP meeting if you feel your child may need this service. There are many reasons the IEP team may determine your child needs this support, including but not limited to help with toileting, health and safety, or behavior management. Read more about 1:1 aides here.
As a parent, you are an integral part of your child’s IEP planning and decision-making team. One way to make sure your input and suggestions are part of your child’s file is by writing a parental concerns letter about what you would like to see addressed at an IEP meeting. This is a chance to share information that only you know about your child.
The language used in your child’s IEP can influence adults’ perception of them. Creating a strength-based IEP using positive, child-focused language can help the adults working with your child learn about them as a whole person.
A strength-based IEP focuses on a child’s needs, goals, abilities, and possibilities. Instead of more attention being placed on something a child can’t do, it focuses on what supports they need to accomplish their goals. For example, if a student has difficulty communicating verbally, a strength-based IEP might state, “Enjoys communicating with peers with a speech-generating device.”
You can help create strength-based goals for your child by writing a vision statement, where you discuss your hopes for the life your child will lead, which can become a focal point for the IEP team when creating goals.
You should receive a request from the school or district inviting you to the IEP meeting, or you can request one yourself. Let the school know if you will be bringing a friend, specialist, attorney, or advocate with you. (You can read about the differences between special education attorneys and advocates here).
Bring the following items to the meeting — it’s a good idea to create a binder to organize all the documents you’ll need at the meeting so they’ll be easy to find while you’re there. Here is a detailed list of what to include in your binder that is specific to preschool.
We recommend you begin preparing for your meeting two days before by:
1. The district does not have to provide a general education placement if it doesn’t have a general education preschool.
This is a common misconception based on the fact that districts are not required to operate preschools for children without disabilities in California. However, LRE requires that children with disabilities be taught alongside their non-disabled peers to the “maximum extent possible.”
This means that unless your child’s needs prevent appropriate inclusion in a general education classroom, the district must provide general education placement. This can be accomplished in several ways, including working with another district to provide services or reimbursing the cost of a private preschool.
2. If your child doesn't spend any time in general education, you do not need a gen ed teacher on the IEP team.
IDEA requires that both a special education teacher and a general education teacher are participating members of your child’s IEP team.
3. You shouldn’t consent to a functional behavior assessment (FBA) because doing so will help the district remove your child from their general education classroom.
An FBA is an excellent tool for keeping your child in their general education classroom, as it will help identify the reasons behind your child’s behavior. When you know why your child exhibits certain unwanted behaviors, you can create goals to reduce or eliminate them. At the same time, the FBA team will likely promote alternative behavior that may help your child achieve more in their current placement.
4. IEPs are always the parent vs. the district.
IEPs are meant to be collaborative processes, with the parent serving as an equal team member. If any team member approaches the IEP meeting with an adversarial attitude, it can disrupt the process and create frustration. Your child stands to benefit the most from a group of people working together with the child’s unique needs and interests at heart.
5. Your child doesn’t need an aide; there are enough people helping in the classroom.
This isn’t always the case. Teachers and staff often have assigned roles and tasks that need to be completed throughout the day, such as providing meals, running activities, and leading circle time. As a result, they cannot always give a child the specific support they need.
Your child may benefit from a 1:1 aide for a variety of reasons: behavior management, instructional support, activities of daily living (such as toileting), safety (for health or mobility), social skills training, and task redirection, just to name a few. A dedicated professional can also provide support during meals and help your child interact socially and in many other ways. However, if you are worried that your child may become dependent on 1:1 support, you can consider if less intensive support can work before requesting an aide.
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